Welcome to the new year parents, grandparents and all lovers of children.
Brené Brown says,
Courage is to tell the story of who you are with your whole heart.
Let me give it a try.
This is a long story – I might have to share it in parts. Please only continue if you can bear some darkness on the way to serenity.
I have started promoting my new endeavor, “Peace At Home Parenting,” and I see that promotion itself is quite challenging for me. I think it will get easier if I tell you what brought me to parenting education in the first place.
I was raised by a mother whose mother lost most of her family in the holocaust. When I was two years old, my mother went back to work and hired a black woman from the south whose ancestors were enslaved. My mother, my grandmother, and my care giver, Mildred, were all good, loving, hard-working women. And they were all traumatized by the aggression visited upon them and their ancestors. Trauma comes down through both genes and behaviors. It is passed on insidiously, even in families like mine that we might call “looking good.” Continue reading “My Story”
- Do you sometimes go to bed at night promising yourself that you won’t yell at the kids tomorrow?
- Do you find yourself promising to be more positive but end up focusing on problems and worries instead?
More and more parents report that they yell and threaten more than they’d like and have trouble with patience. You may wonder why you continue behaviors you know are not helpful to your children. This training will help you understand the nature of toxic stress, how it may have affected you in your childhood. You will learn simple tools to reduce your internal stress and how you can avoid passing it along to your kids.
Continue reading “Toxic Stress: What is it and Why is it Important in Family Life?”
- Do you sometimes feel confused about how to respond to your children’s emotional displays?
- Do emotions sometimes feel like misbehavior to you?
- Do your own feelings feel overwhelming at times?
Tue, Jan 31, 2017
8:15 PM – 9:15 PM EST
Emotional intelligence increases children’s self-worth and cooperation, it improves communication and strengthens the parent-child connection. Family conflict decreases with strong emotional intelligence and it impacts all of your child’s future relationships. This webinar will provide parents with concrete tools to strengthen their own emotional intelligence and those of their children. Even if you wish most emotions would just disappear, this webinar will help you find a path through the confusion.
This “live” webinar is designed for parents of children ages 2 – 12 years old. Following the webinar you will receive an email inviting you to join our private Facebook page on which you will have access to a community of caring parents like you, working to apply new parenting approaches. Our Peace At Home Parenting Facebook community will be a place to share challenges and successes. You will also have ongoing regular contact with Ruth Freeman, webinar trainer, through the Facebook community.
In addition, you will have access to free monthly “Question and Answer” sessions in which you will be coached in applying the skills you learned in Peace at Home webinars and again you will connect with other parents working to improve skills.
A loving relationship between parents is a powerful influence on how effective you are as a parent.
Research suggests that parents who report having a positive, affectionate relationship with their partners tend to engage in more positive parenting activities like playing, reading or singing with their children.
A mom or dad who feels loved is more likely to have the energy and patience that effective parenting requires. If you are worn out by chronic conflict, disappointment over broken agreements or feeling lonely in the relationship, you will likely have a lot less patience for another game of “Candyland.” Getting your basic emotional needs met in a positive relationship with your intimate partner means you are more emotionally available to your child. When your attachment needs are met, you are less likely to over-react to your children’s challenging behavior. When your own emotional bank is full, or at least not on empty, you simply have more to give in ways that children need. Continue reading “How Your Intimate Relationship Impacts Your Children”