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Be the Anchor Your Child Needs in a Turbulent World

June 1, 2025 | Louise Edwards

Parenting Through Chaos: Why You (and Your Child) Need a Steady Anchor

Ever catch yourself thinking, “Once things settle down, I’ll finally…” or “This wouldn’t be a problem if life were more normal”? The truth is, there’s rarely a “normal” month—especially when you’re raising kids. Life is constantly shifting, and as a parent, you’re expected to stay grounded not only for yourself, but also for your child.

This blog explores how to be a calm, consistent presence in a world that often feels unpredictable. It’s a companion piece to our powerful workshop, “Be the Anchor Your Child Needs in a Turbulent World,” where we offer practical strategies for staying steady—even when everything around you isn’t.

Read the blog and share your thoughts. 

Looking for this workshop? Email us at solutions@peaceathomeparenting.com.

Be the Anchor Your Child Needs in a Turbulent World

Like it or not, our kids are watching. Listening. Absorbing. The emotional climate we create—at home, in our tone, and in our words is the climate they inhabit.

From distressing news headlines to daily uncertainty, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. You might find yourself wondering: Am I doing enough to help my child feel safe? 

What if creating a sense of safety is less about doing and more about being?

You Don’t Need All the Answers—You Just Need to Be There

Being your child’s anchor doesn’t mean you’re always calm. It doesn’t mean you have every answer. It means you’re willing to be present in the moment, to slow down and listen—not just to your child, but to yourself.

We’re social animals. Our nervous systems are designed to co-regulate, meaning our kids quite literally draw calm or chaos from the adults around them. If we’re anxious or agitated, they pick up on it. Worse, they may internalize it as being about them.

But when we breathe through our fears, speak with warmth, and pause before reacting—we give our children the space to settle, too.

It Starts With You: Your Calm is Their Calm

You can’t pour from an empty cup. If you’re feeling depleted, anxious, or stuck in a loop of self-criticism, your child will feel that ripple. That’s why tending to your own wellbeing isn’t selfish—it’s strategic. 

The Power of Small, Steady Practices

You don’t need a parenting overhaul. Often, what helps most is beautifully simple – here’s a few examples:

• Naming and normalizing emotions—starting with your own
  
• Mindful movement—even a short walk can shift the energy
  
• Modeling positive coping like deep breathing, laughter, or talking it out.
  

These small, repeated actions send a clear message: This is a safe space. You can trust me. We’ll figure it out together.

Get Out of the Future (and Back to Right Now)

So much of what we fear lives in the future. But worry, while understandable, doesn’t protect us. It steals us from the present—where we can actually connect, reassure, and reflect.

Try this when anxiety creeps in: Is it scary—or is it just new?

Asking that question grounds you in reality. It creates a pause. And it shows your child that uncertainty doesn’t have to equal fear.

You Are Already Enough

Perhaps the hardest truth in all of this is that we can’t help our children feel safe if we feel unsafe ourselves. That’s why being an anchor starts from within.

Self-compassion builds resilience – for the whole family. That kind of presence that becomes a steady heartbeat in a child’s life.