While we’re living in a period of stress and turmoil, we all want to protect our children from pain and uncertainty. But when they’re struggling emotionally, it can be hard to know how to help.
You may notice your usually happy, energetic child seems withdrawn, irritable, or anxious. Perhaps they’re having trouble sleeping, their grades are slipping, or they’re struggling to concentrate. These changes can feel frightening or overwhelming, leaving you unsure if you’re doing enough or saying the right things.
You’re not alone. When your child is struggling, the most powerful thing you can do is be there to listen—without fixing or judging. Children need to know they can express their feelings without fear of disappointing you or adding to your stress. By creating a safe, supportive space where they feel heard and understood, you’re already giving them a kind of support that they need.
Children don’t always have the words to express what’s bothering them, but they often show distress through changes in behavior, mood, and daily habits. These shifts can be easy to miss. Paying attention can help you recognize when your child may need extra support.
When your child is hurting, your instinct may be to jump in and try to fix things. But what they need most is a safe space to express their thoughts and feelings without judgment. Listening with empathy reassures them that they are not a burden—and that they don’t have to protect you from their struggles.
Resist the urge to offer immediate solutions. Instead, focus on being fully present. Ask open-ended questions like, “How are you feeling about everything?” or “What’s on your mind?” Then, just listen. Give them space to share their thoughts without rushing to offer advice.
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Your child needs to know that whatever they’re feeling is okay—and that their emotions won’t disappoint or overwhelm you. Let them know it’s normal to feel scared, angry, or sad, and that you’re there to support them.
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Children who feel emotionally safe are more likely to open up and share their true feelings. Assure your child that they don’t have to hide their worries or protect you from their struggles. Learn ways to be an everyday calm anchor for your child and how to make your family a safe place.
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Even with your best efforts, there may be times when your child needs more help than you can provide.. Seeking professional support doesn’t mean you’ve failed. It means you’re taking proactive steps to ensure your child gets the help they need.
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